Effects on Children
If you suspect a child is being abused, neglected or exposed to family violence, you are required by law to report your suspicions immediately. Call 911, your local Child and Family Services Authority or the 24-hour Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-387-KIDS (5437).
Children Exposed to Family Violence
Exposure to family violence has a dramatic effect on children. In fact, children exposed to family violence can be affected as much as the individual experiencing the violence.
Some parents hope that if their children do not see the violence, it will not harm them. Others think they can protect their children from the impact of the violence. But family violence harms children even if they are not consciously aware of the violence or if they are in a different room when it happens.
Effects on Children
Exposure to family violence can affect a child’s:
- Brain development. This in turn affects every aspect of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual development.
- Emotional well-being. Increased anxiety and fear often have long-term effects.
- Ability to learn.
- Ability to connect with other people and make friends. Relationships are learned from observing others.
Children exposed to family violence are more likely to be bullies or be bullied. They are also at greater risk of growing up to be abusive to others, to be abused or both. If a parent stays in an abusive situation, children learn there are few or no consequences for violent behaviour. Children may grow up to abuse their partners or others, and may accept violence in relationships because they consider violence to be a normal part of a relationship.
Information on preventing and dealing with bullying.
Signs and symptomsChildren who are in environments where family violence occurs may:
- act aggressively or bully others;
- withdraw from social activities;
- take little or no interest in their surroundings;
- find loud noises or loud voices unusually startling;
- be fearful or wary of people’s reactions;
- have unexplained bruises or injuries; or
- run away from home repeatedly.
The following websites provide more detailed information about children exposed to family violence:
We all have the same needs. We have physical needs like safety, food, and shelter. We need love and a sense of belonging. We need to be treated with respect, to have some power over our lives, to find life meaningful, and to feel that we have accomplished something worthwhile.
Not all kids get their needs fulfilled. They may grow up in abusive or neglectful families, or in life-threatening environments. They are labelled “at-risk” kids.
It’s true that some of them will never get off the ground. They feel defeated when they fail at school, get involved in crime or substance abuse, become parents at an early age, or are just unable to keep a job or a home. They are unable to find the resources they need to live.
It’s also true that most “at-risk” kids succeed in spite of setbacks. They become caring, capable, contributing members of society. Resiliency is the ability that we all have to overcome difficult life circumstances.
Resiliency is not rare. Every child has the potential to be resilient. They can learn to solve problems, understand their circumstances, have good relationships with other people, be responsible for their actions, find humour in their troubles, and seize opportunities to be creative and change the world around them. They can learn to believe in themselves, in a brighter future, and in the basic goodness of the world.
The factors that help us become resilient people are:
- having caring and positive relationships in our lives,
- having high expectations placed on us, and
- having the opportunity to contribute and participate in our families, schools, and communities
When children have these three conditions present in their lives, they are more likely to develop the traits that make them able to overcome adversity.
When people have hardship in their lives, they try to find some way of coping. Some choose unhealthy ways of coping, which may include gambling or using alcohol and other drugs. If we can provide kids with a sense of confidence and self worth, we can help to prevent the onset of such problems.
People need to know that they can rely on their abilities and their strengths to see them through the good and bad times. The prevention of addictions includes strategies such as social support, challenging expectations, and chances for meaningful involvement.
These are the skills that you have, if you are resilient.
- Perceptiveness – You understand people and situations and are able to question what is happening in your family, school, or community.
- Service – You give of yourself to others, or to a cause that you believe in.
- Independence – You can separate yourself from your family troubles, and are confident that you can make your own way in the world.
- Optimism – You have hope for a bright future for yourself and the world.
- Connection – You can seek out support from others and form caring and positive relationships.
- Self-motivation – You have the drive to fulfill your dreams and goals.
- Creativity – You can express your experiences in a constructive and helpful way.
- Spirituality – You have faith in something greater than yourself.
- Sense of humour – You can see the funny side of the world and your circumstances, and use this ability to put things into perspective.
- Morality – When you make a decision, you use the information you have about the situation and you consult your own conscience (your sense of right and wrong).
For more information on resiliency, visit the following websites:
Information on this web page was adapted from the following sources:
- Perry, B. (2005). The Destructive Impact of Domestic Violence on Children, and Facts about exposure to violence. In Family Violence: It's Your Business, Community Resource Guide. Edmonton, AB: Prevention of Family Violence and Bullying, Alberta Children’s Services.
- Bender, E. (2004). Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Other Disorders Evident in Kids Who Witness Domestic Violence. Psychiatric News, 39(11).
- Baker, L., Jaffe, P., et al. (2002) Children Exposed to Domestic Violence: An Early Childhood Educator’s Handbook to Increase Understanding and Improve Community Resources.
- Moss, K. (2003). Witnessing Violence-Aggression and Anxiety in Young Children. Supplement to Health Reports (14). Ottawa, ON: Statistics Canada.
- Baker, L., Jaffe, P., & Moore, K. (2001). Understanding the Effects of Domestic Violence A Handbook for Early Childhood Educators. Centre for Children and Families in the Justice System.
- Balshaw, B. (1993). Living with Intention. Unpublished thesis, University of Calgary.
1This information was extracted from Alberta Health Services (2007, April 20). Alberta Health Services Teacher Education Series: Resiliency. Retrieved April 23, 2009 from http://www.albertahealthservices.ca/.